Being the complex creatures that we are, us humans arrive to the party with enough character quirks to carry over for generations. We have many sides to us, some enticing, others unsightly. The thing about these many sides is that they are often brought on by the things in our internal and external environment, much of which we have a say in. Every choice you make has the power to either catapult you into the best ass kicking 3.0 version of yourself or downgrade you into the lameish 1.0 shitty WIFI version of yourself. In any given moment, it's up to you whether you inch closer to your potential or stay in your hole. With that said, here's how you can get out of your own way and start playing big at life.
1. Choose the things that bring out the best in you.
We all have things that bring out the best and worst of us. Kicking ass at life is a matter of choice. Are you choosing, on a moment to moment basis, to do the things that lift you up, to surround yourself with the people that bring out the best in you? Or are you settling for situations, relationships, things that hold you back? If until now you’ve leaned towards the latter, don’t beat yourself up about it, just choose differently. Starting...now.
2. Start small.
This does not have to involve panic-inducing, life rattling decisions. Every moment presents a new opportunity to make decisions that serve you. Something as simple as turning down that extra episode of True Blood (Team Eric, anyone?) to go to bed earlier will set you in the right direction.
3. Create your tribe.
Many of you probably have already heard the phrase that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Well, I’m going to state this again, because it is game changing enough to bear repeating twice.
You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
The degree to how much ass you kick in life can largely be explained by your group of friends. If you surround yourself with go getters, you’re going to be pulled in the go getter direction. If you surround yourself with people who complain about their lives but can’t be bothered to change, you will have a bias towards do-nothingness.
So while this is easy to write about, leaving people who don’t bring out the best in you is about as tranquil as pulling a tooth. The best thing you can do is to start small. Rather than uprooting your group of close friends, start by seeking out other groups of people by indulging in your interests. If you fill your calendar with classes and meet ups that lift you up, you won’t have time for Debbie downers.
As you begin to move away from the people that no longer serve you, it will help to keep in mind that playing small and settling for people that keep you down serves no one. If anything, you moving towards your full potential will inspire those closest to you to do the same. Or not. Either way you owe it to yourself and the world to strive for the best. Do the world a favor and choose the things, situations, people that help you rise to your full potential.